THE mum of two grown-up children – who have recently left home – introduced herself as Kate and revealed she has been married for 23 years and works in the retail industry. Her husband, also 48, works in administration. She says…
“On January 7 I found myself sitting in front of my laptop, reading down a list of flirtatious messages from married men who were complete strangers to me, requesting sexy details.
I can’t tell you what a thrill it is to finally have a series of men interested in me and responding to my hesitant first posting on the Married but Bored website.
I’ve already met one man for coffee in the centre of Manchester, but I could tell straight away there was no sexual spark, so it’s back to the drawing board. I’m now emailing another man who is extremely good-looking. I have high hopes of him.
So why am I — an outwardly happy and settled married woman — looking for sex with married men? I think a lot of women will identify with me. The physical side of my relationship with my husband has drifted away and I can’t see it ever coming back.
When the children left home last October, there was such a big void in my life — they had been the centre of my universe.
My relationship with my husband is platonic and companionable and we’re good friends, but there is no real love, no passion.
I’m only 48 and I can’t live without sex for the rest of my life, but I don’t want to leave my husband. He would be devastated, and I still really like him as a friend. It would also break my children’s hearts, as we are such a close family.
People looking at us from the outside would say we are a perfect family. I have no interest in divorce, as I have a lovely home and a loving family.
I’m not just looking for sex, but for some emotional excitement and fulfilment. I don’t want a man who will sweep me off my feet to a new life — I just want the thrill of being wanted, of having that secret excitement.
It’s going to be something that is just for me — almost like going to the hairdressers.
I decided to join the site just after Christmas — it was like a Christmas present to me. You post your details and put up a picture. I said I was looking for a man who is kind and affectionate. Looks aren’t hugely important to me.
I can’t tell you how much I’m looking forward to the first romance, the feeling of a new man putting his arms around me and kissing me.
Of course, I am nervous about the sex — it’ll be my first time for a while. But it’s a kind of lovely nervousness, a frisson of excitement.
I am definitely not looking for love — just sex and excitement. My husband and I still sleep in the same bed but I won’t feel guilty, as I have no intention of leaving him and breaking up our comfortable home.
I’ll just have the thrill of this illicit excitement — a few last flings before I get too old.”